ATTENDING TO A JILTED FRIEND

ATTENDING TO A JILTED FRIEND

A jilted friend is one whose trust in somebody in love or relationship was betrayed. Such betrayal must be quite deep to pass for jilt.

Somebody that has fallen victim of such betrayal most of the time is mentally and times physically destabilized. Close friends and relations are always confided in for solutions on how to overcome the trauma. Certain individuals try to hide some incidence from friends and relations, more especially if there was forewarning from those people. But the exhibited attitude would give such people out. In some cases unconscious exclamation or self blame may lead to the whole story.

Being jilted can only be painful and noticeable in affairs and relationship. These touch the core of every human being.

The duties of close relations in times like these are plenty. Because the effect to the affected person may lead to lose of concentration at work, or absent mindedness in presence of people, people concerned have to be very much accommodating and compassionate.

Concerned persons can show the passion to help in many ways. A friend of a jilted person can be of help through being in touch to make sure the jilted person is alert to current situation; this is to avoid falling into absent minded mood. Another way to be of help is through offering alterative to the bad situation at hand. Like telling the jilted person that many human beings are still learning who will be ready to offer comfort at careful scrutiny. One can also be of help through relating cases of those who passed through such situations and were able to gather themselves. And of some who could not bear it because there were no persons to be of real help.

The jilted person must also be reminded that life must go on even after such nasty experience. Equally such a person must be reminded that every body has over a thousand matching partners and that such person should go for the remaining 999999 persons, with caution.

WHAT IS COMPATIBILITY

Compatibility is often associated with relationship mostly as it relates to human beings. There are traces of compatibility in other spheres of life, it always involve mutual cohabitation.

Compatibility is traditionally known to be the ability of people or things to live together without problems. One can liken compatibility, to affinity in relationship. Affinity on the other hand is the relationship between two people or things that have similar qualities, structure or features. From the look of things, one can dwell much on affinity when explaining compatibility.

The facts in the definitions are that for there to be compatibility, the two parties must be of the same structure. The similarity in qualities must be noticeable. But all these qualities are are not perceivable through human sense organs of eyes, hands and ears. They are more or less spiritual or abstract in nature. Abstract qualities are difficult to understand because different people have different views about them. Compatibility is not an exception. But because compatibility in human beings concerns the very essence of living it must be studied seriously. Some of the ways to understand compatibility are:

1. Observing relationships that are fairly stables

2. Asking questions on what works in relationship

3. Avoiding trivialities when going into relationship

4. Striving to be self-reliant in order to avoid going into a relationship for selfish interest

Compatibility as it concerns human happiness must be seen as a personal obligation. That is to avoid going and coming out of relationship, if necessary to know every fact of compatibility. Compatibility brings happiness in the family. Compatibility prolongs life. Compatibility is bliss.